Dinner is when everyone gathers around the table and catches up on what’s new. Learning about the big milestones in your child’s life is a important part of the day, whether it’s good or bad news. At a certain age tho kids give one word responses making it difficult to have quality conversations. They typical ‘how was your day?’ gets simple responses such as ‘fine’, or ‘okay’ or ‘good.’ And then things get awkward and the conversation ends. Most kids rush through meals looking for any excuse to get onto their phones or laptops. But there is a way to get kids involved and engaged, all you have to do is ask nonjudgmental questions and be prepared to listen. Here are some ways to have quality conversations with your kids.
Try to stay away from questions that could be answered with one word answers and instead ask questions that are open-ended questions like these:
- What’s on your bucket list for this year?
- What was the best part of the day?
- What’s the hardest topic you had to learn today?
- If you could trade places with me for a day, what would you do differently?
- What scares you the most?
- What did you learn today?
- What’s your favorite subject in school?
- What makes someone a good friend? Who are your best friends and do you have any upcoming plans?
- What would you teach if you were a teacher?
- Ask about recess. Recess for most kids is the highlight of their day with lunch coming in a close second. Start by asking “what did you do at recess today?”
Other great times to connect with your kids is by building special time each week. Maybe go out to eat or take them to their favorite pastime or become interested in their hobbies. If your kids love hockey take them to a lightning game its an excellent time to bond. Remember you might not find out all your kids deepest darkest secrets, or who their secret crush is but you can take baby steps into learning about your kids. Or if your kids love to be artsy you can take them to a pottery class.
We hope some of these questions will help jump start some interesting conversations.