Jay Pancholy grew up in Tallahassee and has lived in South Tampa for nine years. A radiologist, he attended Emory University. His wife Susan is a nurse, and their twins Aidan and Riley are 6.
What’s the most rewarding part of being a dad?
Watching our children grow and learn every day. They help me see the world in a unique way. They teach me new things as well – whether it be about marine life or the latest video game app. I feel like you get 10 times back as a result of the effort you put in them as a parent.
What is your favorite thing to do with your kids?
Traveling with the kids and spending quality family time. Going on a vacation allows me to give my family undivided attention. We also enjoy boating on Tampa Bay. Recently, the kids have become obsessed with fishing so I am working on my angling skills.
What is the most challenging part of fatherhood?
Balancing the need for me to be a fun and cool dad but at the same time an authority figure is difficult. Disciplining someone you love more than anything is harder than I thought.
Who in your life influenced the kind of father you are?
That is easy. I was fortunate to have a great father. He taught me to put family first. He spent a lot of time with me when I was growing up and I thank him for that gift.
As a father, how do you view your responsibilities?
I am there to be a positive male influence. For my daughter, I want her to know that her dad always loves her and that she can accomplish anything she wants to. For my son, I see myself as someone whom he can play sports with but at the same time talk about any problems he is having. It is important to me they know that I am always there for them no matter what.
What advice would you give other fathers?
Give your kids a hug and kiss every morning and every night you can. Even if we do not spend much time together on a given day that reminds them of how important they are. Also the world has changed in terms of technology since I was a kid. It is very important for the kids to be outside playing as much as possible and not spending too much time in front of a computer or TV.
It is often difficult to balance a career with spending time with your family. How do you deal with this and make time for them?
I do have a busy career. Luckily my wife Susan is there to take the kids to their activities and help them with homework. When I come home I get to do all the fun things because I have a have a great partner. Also I do my best to have my work schedule revolve around them – not the other way around.
What is something people don’t know about you?
I am great at polishing nails. My daughter thinks it is cool. Also I wish I could get a second job as a travel agent. I love helping friends plan their vacations.
What is your biggest fear?
Not living up to my potential. I worry about my kids too like any parent but I am more hopeful rather than fearful for their success in life.
What makes you happy?
Watching my family sing and dance with our disco karaoke machine is a favorite activity. Also watching Seminoles football games with both kids. They just went to their first FSU game last season at a place called Ben Hill Griffin Stadium. Let’s just say we had a lot of fun!
Where is your favorite place to go in Tampa?
I would say Curtis Hixon Park – by boat. There is always a fun festival or activity there on the weekends. The kids love running around the grass and in the fountains. Also we love Rays games.
