It would seem that every year, around this time (roughly a week or two in), many of our new years resolutions are already waning. There are only so many times you can go to the gym before you start to wonder if you can keep up your resolution to exercise, and only so many wonderful recipes you can try to cook before you wonder if your resolution to cook healthier meals is just too big of an undertaking. Add the kids into the mix and many of us are starting to give up right about now.
But, before you give up, remember this: your children are watching you.
Before you had kids, sure you could make a resolution to cut out the bad food and on day 11 chow down on a donut in relatively quiet shame. But now, you have an extra set of eyes on you, and those eyes are learning about self-discipline.
If your resolution seems too big, perhaps scaling it back and explaining to the kids why you are doing that is the solution– but do not cheat yourself out of a great 2016 just because you decided to downgrade.
Did you know that gym memberships surge in January every year? This means that there is a treasure-trove of support just waiting if that is the resolution you have chosen. Make a friend, bring a friend, and find an accountability partner. When you are mid-push-up, contemplating giving up as soon as the fitness instructor turns their back, an accountability friend can help you stick it out. The same can be said of cooking classes or nearly any other group related resolution. Finding someone to keep you on track will help you get over the initial hurdles and will help you meet your goals.
Dr. Nekeshia Hammond suggests writing down your resolutions to help keep you from giving up. Instead of writing “I want to lose 10 pounds” or “I want to be able to cook without burning water”, she suggests that you write specifically what you want and how you are going to get it. This can help you recognize some of the problems you may have to face before you face them, and will help set you up for success in the long-run.
If your kids have already hit the two week hurdle of wanting to give up on their resolutions– whether they resolved to read more, play outside more and use their computers less, or just to clean up after themselves, remember that they need encouragement just like you do. Making resolutions together and making them a focus of the year can add to the overall feeling of family success and will keep everyone moving.
So remember, before you binge-eat Snickers bars in your car (and hide the wrappers), you can do this. You can make 2016 a successful resolution year with your family.