There is a lot of power in the thoughts we have everyday. Confucius once said, “He who says, he can, and he who says he can’t, are both usually right!”
We create our own boundaries in our own lives. It’s been grossly underestimated how our thoughts directly shape our lives. When we focus on what we can’t do, then we not only convince ourselves of our own limitations, but we don’t take any action to contradict that thought.
For example, if someone were to say, “I can’t talk in front of a large crowd, I am terrible at it and it terrifies me.” By allowing that negative thought to continue circulating through their minds, they have now set the boundary for themselves of what they can and can’t do, in reference to public speaking. They have also greatly narrowed the possibility that they would take any positive actions towards improving their public speaking.
By having this thought repetitively, they have literally convinced themselves, they can’t do this.
However, on the flip side, if they were to change the negative thought into a positive thought about public speaking and say, “I enjoy speaking in front of a large crowd. I am a great public speaker.” They would start to take different actions towards public speaking.
“What we think is what we become.” Some people will have difficulty understanding this process, because it is so different from the negative mindset we are used to having our whole lives.
A good way to start is with “I am” statements. I am good. I am strong. I am (fill in the blank). You have to believe that you can and are able to accomplish whatever you want in life. Your thoughts dictate your future because it’s your thoughts that lead to the actions you will take regarding your beliefs. Everything starts with your thoughts. So make them positive ones. Start telling yourself, it is possible, I am possible. I am.
When you implement this practice consistently, you will begin to notice a positive shift in your attitude and the way you feel on a daily basis. Your positive outlook on life and daily activities will be infectious, especially to the people closest to you, like your children and family members.
For example, if your child is struggling with math and shouts out, “ I am bad a math!” Acknowledge their frustration and then encourage them to change their way of thinking with a positive affirmation. “I know your frustrated right now. I also know that you are very smart and you can learn math.” Over time this will shift their mindset from “I am bad at math” to “I am smart and I can learn math!”
Another practice to be conscious of is the seemingly harmless “negative self-talk.” Statements such as; “I am ugly, I am fat, I am so stupid,” not only affect your own self esteem, but also can affect your children’s growing self-esteem. Children are like sponges and will absorb your words and negative self-talk, but they will also absorb your positivity. So, practice positive affirmations inwardly and outwardly and this will encourage your children to do the same.
Finally, try spreading your new found positivity to the working environment and watch how quickly it changes your outlook on your day to day activities and also your interactions with your co-workers. Encouraging others by stating, “I can and I am” affirmations will begin a positive shift in your own perceived capabilities at work. For example, instead of immediately responding to a new working challenge with, “I can’t do a presentation for the meeting, I have never done that before. I am not good at presenting.” Try challenging yourself and respond with, “I can take on this new challenge and present at the meeting. I am capable of learning new skills.”
When you start to implement positive thinking and statements into your daily life all areas can improve. Remember when you change the way you look at things, things begin to change: